This coming 8th Nov, will be our wedding anniversary. 4 yrs into marriage. Wow! That's fast. Looking back, we've been together for 9 yrs now and we had known each other for 11 yrs.
Some people ask me, how do you guys managed to hang on to each other for that long? And especially he is my 1st and last boyfriend. This kind of people had disappeared from the earth. Hmm.....I really don't know. I guess, to me, he is my best friend ever, he really cares for me. Although we have differences and knowing that people are not perfect, I guess I just treated him as the one without looking around for another that is better. Mind you, he is really the best to me.
9yrs of relationship isn't a smooth sailing one. However, we have come so far to learn that both of us are not perfect, and we need to change ourselves along the way. We started off as friends in college, and got together when we were in university while we were in Perth ( where we lived together ), and then came back home ( lived with our parents separately for almost 4 yrs ) before we got married.Well, there were some complication between college and university time but I wouldn't want to go further detail on that...and guess what? Things do changed. Circumstances do change. But there is 1 thing that did not change, the love we have for each other. We love each other too much that we are willing to change for the better,
For a strong and independent woman like me, it is sometimes hard to tell my hubby how much I appreciate his love for me. Well, I do love $, I do love the diamonds and all the nice stuff like other women, but there is 1 thing that I want most, someone who really cares for me, someone that will be there when I need him the most, someone who can understand me, support me in everything I do, and someone who will share the joy of family with me.Oh gosh...I feel like crying now. How many woman in this world that has the privilege of a bf/husband who will hold their hands when they cross the road and make sure that he is standing at where the traffic is coming, just to make sure that if the car hits the both of you, it will hit him first and you are protected?
After marriage, GOD has put us into accepting his challenge. Financially, emotionally, and spiritually. We have gone through the ups and downs. These 3 yrs+ has been full of challenge. But I believe that things happened for a purpose. It makes us stronger and better. In the first 2 yrs of marriage, we have decided not to have kids first because financially we are still not stable. There are the house, the renovations and furniture, the cars, the bills etc. Living on our own had made us realized that our parents had done so much for us without us realizing it. Suddenly the questions of who is going to pay the bills, how much $ do we have to do this and that, whose turn to clean the house and arguments like I want it to look like this and that, where did you put the stuff...all came together.
Well my friends, if you think this will go away, it wont! But, the good news is, we learn to sit down and plan, communicate, and set priorities. Thank GOD that we are much better now. Sometimes little arguments can't be avoid but I guess it adds spices into our life.
And then, when we finally got settled down and wanted to have kids, we never expected that things will turn out the other way. 2 miscarriages in 2 yrs, with a cyst operation in between that got me in and out of hospital a few times is not something that we will foresee or expect. Emotionally, we were hurt. I was quite down after my 2nd miscarriage which was recently in April. Having thought that the pregnancy was good, with morning sickness and passed the 1st trimester, I really thought this is going to be it. And suddenly, one day after my doctor visit, I wasn't feeling too well and with tummy pain towards the evening and night, I finally didn't managed to get through. It happened in my own bedroom after the ward doctor sent me home when I went in in the early morning at 3+a.m. She says there is nothing that she can do except for me to lye straight on the bed. 30 mins after I reached home, my baby came out and my hubby, sister, aunt and uncle opposite had to carry me down from the stairs and send me to the hospital again. It was such a trauma that I wouldn't want to go through the experience again. ( I thought I told myself the 1st time I had my miscarriage, same symptom, same result )
I remember 1 thing that my husband said when I had my miscarriage. He says, its OK. I'm more worried about you. "When the baby came out while the doctor was with you ( during my 1st miscarriage), all I want to do is just to come to you and see if you are OK". After my 2nd incident, he even asked me whether I would consider adopting a child as he doesn't want to see me going through the same pain again. Here is what I want to say dear, Thanks but its OK. I will keep trying. I am looking forward for my future kids. I know I'll definitely have a healthy baby, with your care, support, and prayers from family and friends.
Today, after 9 yrs, we are happy. We continue to strive and work hard for what we want in life, and we know where we are going in life. Things might not be ideal now, but with hope, we know that every day is meaningful to us and I love to be with this man forever.
Some people ask me, how do you guys managed to hang on to each other for that long? And especially he is my 1st and last boyfriend. This kind of people had disappeared from the earth. Hmm.....I really don't know. I guess, to me, he is my best friend ever, he really cares for me. Although we have differences and knowing that people are not perfect, I guess I just treated him as the one without looking around for another that is better. Mind you, he is really the best to me.
9yrs of relationship isn't a smooth sailing one. However, we have come so far to learn that both of us are not perfect, and we need to change ourselves along the way. We started off as friends in college, and got together when we were in university while we were in Perth ( where we lived together ), and then came back home ( lived with our parents separately for almost 4 yrs ) before we got married.Well, there were some complication between college and university time but I wouldn't want to go further detail on that...and guess what? Things do changed. Circumstances do change. But there is 1 thing that did not change, the love we have for each other. We love each other too much that we are willing to change for the better,
For a strong and independent woman like me, it is sometimes hard to tell my hubby how much I appreciate his love for me. Well, I do love $, I do love the diamonds and all the nice stuff like other women, but there is 1 thing that I want most, someone who really cares for me, someone that will be there when I need him the most, someone who can understand me, support me in everything I do, and someone who will share the joy of family with me.Oh gosh...I feel like crying now. How many woman in this world that has the privilege of a bf/husband who will hold their hands when they cross the road and make sure that he is standing at where the traffic is coming, just to make sure that if the car hits the both of you, it will hit him first and you are protected?
After marriage, GOD has put us into accepting his challenge. Financially, emotionally, and spiritually. We have gone through the ups and downs. These 3 yrs+ has been full of challenge. But I believe that things happened for a purpose. It makes us stronger and better. In the first 2 yrs of marriage, we have decided not to have kids first because financially we are still not stable. There are the house, the renovations and furniture, the cars, the bills etc. Living on our own had made us realized that our parents had done so much for us without us realizing it. Suddenly the questions of who is going to pay the bills, how much $ do we have to do this and that, whose turn to clean the house and arguments like I want it to look like this and that, where did you put the stuff...all came together.
Well my friends, if you think this will go away, it wont! But, the good news is, we learn to sit down and plan, communicate, and set priorities. Thank GOD that we are much better now. Sometimes little arguments can't be avoid but I guess it adds spices into our life.
And then, when we finally got settled down and wanted to have kids, we never expected that things will turn out the other way. 2 miscarriages in 2 yrs, with a cyst operation in between that got me in and out of hospital a few times is not something that we will foresee or expect. Emotionally, we were hurt. I was quite down after my 2nd miscarriage which was recently in April. Having thought that the pregnancy was good, with morning sickness and passed the 1st trimester, I really thought this is going to be it. And suddenly, one day after my doctor visit, I wasn't feeling too well and with tummy pain towards the evening and night, I finally didn't managed to get through. It happened in my own bedroom after the ward doctor sent me home when I went in in the early morning at 3+a.m. She says there is nothing that she can do except for me to lye straight on the bed. 30 mins after I reached home, my baby came out and my hubby, sister, aunt and uncle opposite had to carry me down from the stairs and send me to the hospital again. It was such a trauma that I wouldn't want to go through the experience again. ( I thought I told myself the 1st time I had my miscarriage, same symptom, same result )
I remember 1 thing that my husband said when I had my miscarriage. He says, its OK. I'm more worried about you. "When the baby came out while the doctor was with you ( during my 1st miscarriage), all I want to do is just to come to you and see if you are OK". After my 2nd incident, he even asked me whether I would consider adopting a child as he doesn't want to see me going through the same pain again. Here is what I want to say dear, Thanks but its OK. I will keep trying. I am looking forward for my future kids. I know I'll definitely have a healthy baby, with your care, support, and prayers from family and friends.
Today, after 9 yrs, we are happy. We continue to strive and work hard for what we want in life, and we know where we are going in life. Things might not be ideal now, but with hope, we know that every day is meaningful to us and I love to be with this man forever.
1 comment:
GG,
Congratulations! 9 years is almost a decade. Keep and seal it..:)
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